1) Leo’s Resignation

I will start with what I witnessed.   A few members had a side bet of 100 baht on their game.   If anyone plays poorly and fails to get 30 points the bet is cancelled.   One member after wiping the 10th hole declared that he didn’t care anymore.   He wasn’t going to get 30 points so he wouldn’t have to pay 5Points.   On the 13th hole he hit a poor tee shot, followed by another poor shot into the bunker on the right at the dogleg.   That put him about 275 yards away from the green on a par 5 – he picked up his ball and walked off the hole after only 2 shots.   Walking to the 17th hole he announced that he couldn’t get more than 2 more points for the rest of the day.   If he didn’t get closest to the pin he would wipe the hole.   He hit the ball a bit long and to the left.   Hit a poor chip, followed by another chip onto the green, then instructed the caddie to pick up the ball while he was on the green about 15 feet from the pin in 3.   He didn’t get 29 points because he played poorly, he got 29 points because that is what he manipulated his score to be.

What was wrong with that?   He wasn’t playing within the spirit of the game and it was extremely poor sportsmanship.  I was told to shut up and not say anything because I wasn’t part of the side bet and it was no concern of mine.   Did I not have a responsibility to inform the others of what I witnessed?  If he gets away with it once do you not think he would do it again (and again)?   Changing what should be 32s, 33s and 34s into 29s will affect his handicap.  If allowed to continue then it is the concern of all members as they are playing with someone who has manipulated his handicap higher.

What kind of a LOSER goes to such effort to get out of paying someone 100 baht?

He is the only one to refer to our home golf course as a “goat track”.   He contributes very little.  How many times has he played at a different time on our golf days because he prefers to play with others and not with our group?   For 6 months he refused to play with another member (me) – the only one to do such a thing.   I thought all personal differences weren’t to be brought to the golf course.   He constantly criticises the organisers particularly the Fairness Specialist who is doing a great job.  None of this ever happened before he joined us last August.

Our blog says that all are welcome to play friendly, competitive golf.   I haven’t found it to be friendly this past 6 months.    I WAS always polite to him and would give him a cheerful “hello” whenever I saw him.   All I ever got from him was an ogre’s grunt.   Why should I have to shut up and accept his rudeness and disregard for fair play?   I have to tolerate his and his friend’s rudeness away from the golf course.   I come to play golf to get away from their bullshit – not to get more of it.

Recently I have been told (more than once) by the Organiser Of The Day that he has had enough of this.   Does he think I haven’t?   I have no desire to continue playing with SMAF.   I am willing to play with any friendly golfers on any day of the week preferably at 9:30 or later (at Santiburi).  Please feel free to contact me at any time if you are looking for a game.


5 thoughts on “1) Leo’s Resignation

  1. I probably shouldn’t comment but I will. I’m 5Points and the Organizer of the Day. I like playing golf with Leo. I’m sorry he is resigning. That said, the person who “dropped anchor” by avoiding getting 30 or over was well within his rights to do so. If you look at it another way, he lost B250 by avoiding losing B100, because he could have gotten a good score on one of those back nine holes. Not a winning strategy long term. I won 3 skins on one of the back nine holes with a par. It wasn’t Leo’s place to call foul when the player took an option that the rules of the side bet allowed. As Leo alluded to, there are larger issues at play here, but they are all insignificant when one considers that we have a good group of people who enjoy playing golf together. Everyone, including Leo and the “anchor-dropper” both, need to put all the past aside once and for all and just come out and play golf. Forget all that silly stuff. It’s time for it to be over. To err is human; to forgive, divine. Be divine! I know you all have it in you.

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  2. Hi All

    Been reading about this matter and it is very disappointing to see the event occur. Being part of this group on and off, and then coming back to re-join when we return to Chiang Rai each year, I would like to think that we will be able to see all of our friends there and play in the great skins competition.

    Being a current member of a golf club in Australia and playing strict competitions that include side bets etc I would like to make a comment about the ethics of the game. There are a couple players at my club who are known for trying to manipulate their handicap. Recently there was an instance of them doing just that in a round of golf, one of their playing partners reported them (which took courage) and the club had to act. That process did not reflect poorly on the person who reported them, it reflected poorly on the individual who believes that they have a right to behave in that manner and try to make a mockery of the ethics of the game – as well as the ethics of their playing partners.

    In this instance, the same should be said. The issue lies with the individual who decided to behave in such a manner. The behavior disrespects the group as a whole and individually disrespects those who were involved in the side bet – irrespective of if it is within the rules of the side bet or not. At no stage should a person believe that it is ok to not play out the round with the intent to play appropriately and with some sort of effort. Picking up on a par 5 having hit just two shots is absurd and should be treated as absurd.

    I see that the group has a Code of Conduct in place, that Code should be applied in this instance so that the integrity of the group is maintained. The group is bigger than that one individual member. If that member cannot come back to the group and indicate that they acknowledge what they did was disrespectful then they should not return to the group. No one else should have to feel that they need to leave the group as a result – that is certainly disappointing to me and I hope that the resolution lies in the group coming together to make that not the case.

    I would agree that the group can, and probably should forgive, however the matter should not be forgotten and a repeat of it would truly spell the end for that person as there should be no tolerance for it moving forward.


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